Sumaya Kroger, EAP Counselor
The recent suicides of designer Kate Spade and chef Anthony Bourdain are continued evidence that even the rich and famous aren’t immune to mental health or substance abuse issues. One can still be lonely even though they are surrounded by – and known by – many people.
There are certain elements that indicate someone may be at increased risk of suicide. A change in current typical behaviors for a person or the presence of new behaviors that are uncharacteristic of the person are most notable. Perhaps the biggest risk factor for suicide attempts are previous suicide attempts, but there are additional warning signs that could indicate a need for counseling or more intensive treatment.
Whether at home or at work, below are some verbal, behavioral and psychological signs to look for when determining if someone is contemplating suicide:
Verbal
Verbal expressions of unbearable pain or feelings of hopelessness can provide clear signs of suicidal ideation – and a call for help. If a person talks about killing themselves, having no reason to live, being a burden to others or feeling trapped, then it may be time to seek assistance.
Behavioral
Behaviors that may signal risk, especially if related to a painful event, loss or change, include the increased use of alcohol or drugs; looking for a way to end one’s life, such as searching online for methods of committing suicide; withdrawing from activities; and/or isolating oneself from family and friends. Sleeping too much or too little, aggression and fatigue are additional red flags.
If someone you know begins visiting or calling people to say goodbye, or gives away prized possessions, then it’s time for a longer conversation about the changes in behavior and the potential need for next steps such as counseling.
Mood
People who are considering suicide often display one or more discernable moods, which can reflect in their verbal interactions or behavioral changes. These moods include:
- Depression
- Anxiety
- Loss of interest
- Irritability
- Humiliation and/or shame
- Agitation and/or anger
- Relief and/or a sudden improvement in mood
No matter who it is – a family member, a close friend, a neighbor or even a coworker – remember to always take suicidal comments seriously. When in doubt, your employee assistance program (EAP) benefit can help determine the best course of action.
If you or someone you know is in an immediate suicidal crisis, call 911 or the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (NSPL) at 1-800-273-TALK (8255).
